How do you de escalate a fight with a narcissist?

Here are the steps you should take:

1. Don’t argue about ‘right’ and ‘wrong’
2. Instead, try to empathise with their feelings.
3. Use ‘we’ language.
4. Don’t expect an apology.
5. Ask about a topic that interests them.
6. Don’t take the bait yourself.
7. Remember to put yourself first.

How do you rationalize a narcissist?

10 Tips for Dealing with a Narcissistic Personality

1. Accept them.
2. Break the spell.
3. Speak up.
4. Set boundaries.
5. Expect pushback.
6. Remember the truth.
7. Find support.
8. Demand action.

How do you have a productive conversation with a narcissist?

When talking with a narcissist, it is important to remember three things:

1. Do not respond quickly or out of emotion. Almost every conversation is a negotiation and, when bargaining with emotionally loaded issues, time is of the essence.
2. Do not apologize.
3. Do not agree or disagree.

How do you deal with a narcissist who can’t stand being ignored?

I have discovered that if I ignore their insult and do not rise to the bait, I can often avoid a pointless fight. If “your” Narcissist cannot stand simply being ignored and escalates, you can use one of the methods described earlier to shift their attention to something more pleasant.

How do you de-escalate conflict?

Escalating conflict is a choice; don’t go there. Let go of your need to control or manage the other individual(s). Choose to de-escalate. 2. Manage yourself. Attend to your body language – ensure it is open, relaxed, and non-threatening. Adjust your position to be at eye level with the other person or group.

How do you deal with an exhibitionistic narcissist?

I expect an apology.” (You won’t get an apology during a fight, just a longer fight). Exhibitionistic Narcissists love to display their knowledge to an admiring audience. It is fairly easy to distract them by asking a question about a topic that interests them. For your own sake, try and pick one that interests you as well.

What to say to a narcissist who is being devalued?

Narcissists grew up in homes where admitting being at fault led to being devalued. I have found it useful to model how to take appropriate, non-defensive, responsibility. Do say: “So sorry. I realize now that I could have phrased that better. I didn’t mean to hurt your feelings.” Don’t say: “You always take what I say the wrong way!”