How do you repent after an affair?

Forgive yourself for everything you’re doing to feel okay. Forgive yourself for not knowing and for not asking the questions that were pressing against you when something didn’t feel right. And let go of any shame – for leaving, for staying, for any of the feelings you felt before the affair or during it or afterwards.

Can an affair be forgiven?

After infidelity comes to light, the person who was unfaithful may hope to be forgiven right away. While forgiveness may be a necessary part of infidelity recovery, it generally does not occur at the beginning of the recovery process. To the partner who was betrayed, forgiveness often means the end of the journey.

What is the punishment for infidelity in the Bible?

Leviticus 20:10 subsequently prescribes capital punishment for adultery, but refers to adultery between a man and a married woman: And the man that committeth adultery with another man’s wife, even he that committeth adultery with his neighbour’s wife, the adulterer and the adulteress shall surely be put to death.

What does the Bible say about marriage and divorce?

Matthew 19:9 (ESV) And I say to you: whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery. Note that Jesus does not say this is the only reason for divorce. We find other reasons for divorce in Scripture.

Should I confess my affair?

Confessing is crucial if you’re invested in someone other than your partner, she adds. That’s because your affair could be a sign that some elements—say, sexual intimacy or other kinds of closeness—are missing from your current relationship, and you’ll need to address them if you want your union to survive.

What happens if you don’t tell your spouse after an affair?

You have to consider the relational impact on your marriage if you harbor a lie of this magnitude. If you don’t tell your spouse and attempt to rebuild your marriage after an affair, understand that from this point forward, whatever is being rebuilt in terms of the marriage is being built on a lie or partial truth (omission).

Can You Save Your Marriage by keeping infidelity a secret?

Trying to save your marriage by keeping infidelity a secret will never be a plan that honors your spouse or your marriage. In a July 12, 2012 article posted on PsychologyToday.com, Dr. Mark White explains it this way:

Should I confess my affair to someone who has been abusive?

If you believe that your revelation could lead to violence toward you or the person that you had the affair with, then I recommend you find a Christian counselor. He or she can help you think through the ramifications of confessing to someone who has been (or could be) physically abusive or life threatening.

Should you tell your spouse when you’ve been adultery?

Clearly, there is no simple answer. However, after years of studying this issue and having spent thousands of hours counseling couples that have dealt with infidelity, I want to offer some perspective. I believe that when adultery has taken place, you should always tell your spouse.