Is your narcissist hoovering?

Remember, the narcissist is never worried about what you’re doing while he’s gone or that you’ve found a better love because he’s conditioned you to wait for him…to wait for the hoover. It’s time to ignore the subtle signs of hoovering and get on with your life.

How long does it take for a victim of narcissistic abuse?

Victims of narcissistic abuse may undergo several months or years of hoovering before leaving the relationship for good. Why Do Narcissists Come back to old Relationships?

Why do narcissists always return to their ex-lovers?

A narcissist will always return to an ex-lover to ensure that his narcissistic supply still pines for him and that she never moves on from the pain he has caused her.

Do narcissists Really Love You?

Narcissists can be charming and during the idealization phase, their love for you seems to know no bounds. Unfortunately, they only love how you make them feel through your supply, and that feeling is fleeting.

Do narcissists ever let go of their exes?

However, narcissists typically don’t let go of their exes completely.   They’ve been known to contact old flames out of the blue, sometimes as long as ten years post-breakup!

What happens when you go no contact with a malignant narcissist?

No contact is a huge ego blow to a narcissist, so he’s going to do everything in his power to get you back, or at least to punish you. If you really want to remove a malignant narcissist from your life and stop him from destroying you any further, you need to know exactly what to expect when you go no contact, so you can stay no contact.

Do narcissists contact their exes out of the Blue?

  They’ve been known to contact old flames out of the blue, sometimes as long as ten years post-breakup! If the narcissist in your life is playing these juvenile love games (e.g. disappearing, hiding their cell phone, accusing you of being overly jealous, etc.), then there is a very good chance that they are tending their Garden of Supply.

What are the hoovering traps narcissists use to ensnare you?

Here are ten common hoovering traps narcissists use to ensnare you. 1. Pretending the Breakup Never Happened This is one of the tricks narcissists play that will totally throw you for a loop. You’ve broken up – of that you’re sure.

What happens when a narcissist leaves you?

If you’ve been in a relationship with a narcissist, you know that when a narcissist leaves you, very often they come back and start the whole cycle over again. Narcissists groom their targets for the idealize-devalue-discard-hoover cycle. They know the effect this has on neurotransmitters like dopamine. It’s intentional.

How to avoid being sucked in by a narcissist?

To prevent being sucked in by these hoovering tricks, it’s important to understand narcissists themselves. They don’t have any rules. What seems out-of-bounds to you isn’t too far-fetched to them at all. They will do anything they can to get you back, to suck you in just like a powerful vacuum sucks up the dirt in your carpet.

Why does a narcissist Want you Back?

As you can see, narcissists can hoover for reasons that have or have nothing to do with the love they have for their partner. Understanding why a narcissist wants you back in his life may not be that easy but it’s very important to know their intentions in order to deal with them well.

What is no contact with a narcissist?

No Contact is the key to escaping The Hoovering and the narcissist’s life-long plan for you. It’s also the only opportunity you’ll ever have for breaking the codependency to hope that the narcissist counts on you to cling to while he’s gone.

Why would a narcissist want to keep you in the queue?

No matter what he tells you, this is the only reason. A narcissist’s intention, after all, is to always keep you in the queue, ready and waiting alongside all the others (and there are always others). Hoovers are stuffed with lies and future-fakery and downright bullshit.