Should I give advice or listen?

The best way to give an advice is not to give an advice at all, but instead to listen deeply. Rather than saying, “Here is what you need to do,” we need to shut up and open the ear of our heart. We need to create a space where the other person can articulate what is afflicting him or her.

Why do I give advice?

People give unsolicited advice because they like the way it makes them feel more than for a genuine concern for someone else’s problems. A set of four studies found that giving advice makes people feel more powerful. Just giving advice makes them feel important. And when the advice is taken, they feel valued.

Is it bad advice to ask someone for business advice?

Advice that has little to no context about you or your business is often bad advice. “Very often, people give advice based on their experience, which may not align with the situation the recipient is dealing with,” says Jeremy Greenberg, a business strategist who has worked with companies like Capital One and Avon.

What is the best way to give advice?

The lesson is simply this: be careful giving advice that’s based solely on your personal experience, and always be very specific about exactly what needs to be done differently – the specific behaviors the person should or shouldn’t engage in. Bad advice can leave the recipient frustrated, confused, or headed down the wrong path.

Does giving advice make you feel more powerful?

Those who had given advice showed they felt more powerful. Two more of the studies focused on whether individuals who want to boost their power tend to give advice. These studies found that individuals who want the upper hand do in fact tend to be more loose lipped about offering guidance.

Do you give advice based on your experience or your situation?

“Very often, people give advice based on their experience, which may not align with the situation the recipient is dealing with,” says Jeremy Greenberg, a business strategist who has worked with companies like Capital One and Avon. If you receive advice that is more about someone else’s experience, make sure the situation mirrors yours exactly.