What happens if both partners have ADHD?

When both partners have ADHD, the game changes—with mixed results. Personally understanding the condition may make one partner less likely to express frustration, “but you also see more disorganization, and all the symptoms times two,” Matlen says. “It can make for a lot of craziness at home.”

Does ADHD cause rudeness?

With ADHD, the brain doesn’t correctly attend to and interpret things like facial expression, tone of voice, and other non-verbal communication messages. Therefore, someone with ADHD misreads a lot of interpersonal interactions, doesn’t respond correctly, and comes off as rude.

What to do when your partner has ADHD?

Develop a routine. Your partner will benefit from the added structure.

Set up external reminders. This can be in the form of a dry erase board,sticky notes,or a to-do list on your phone.

Control clutter. People with ADHD have a hard time getting and staying organized,but clutter adds to the feeling that their lives are out of control.

How does ADHD affect your relationship?

Hyperfocus Dating. The biggest shock to ADHD relationships comes with the transition from courtship to marriage.

Walking On Eggshells. Tantrums,anger,and rude behavior often accompany untreated ADHD symptoms.

Believing ADHD Doesn’t Matter.

Misinterpreting Symptoms.

Chore Wars.

Impulsive Responses.

Nag Now,Pay Later.

The Blame Game.

What is it like to live with someone with ADHD?

Even if it’s not always apparent, ADHD can make someone feel like they’re struggling to keep their head above water. Subordinate to their spouses. Their partners spend a good deal of time correcting them or running the show. The corrections make them feel incompetent, and often contribute to a parent-child dynamic.

How does ADHD affect relationships and what you can do?

ADHD can negatively affect relationships, but this does not have to be the case. Mutual acceptance of imperfections can go a long way in terms of creating empathy for each other, and learning to slow down. Compassion and teamwork top the list of qualities that make a relationship with an ADHD partner work.