Do you have to share everything with a therapist?

Knowing that you can say anything to your therapist and it will remain in the room helps you feel safe and builds trust between you and the therapist. For this reason, all therapists are legally and ethically bound to keep their sessions confidential and not share with anyone else what was talked about.

Can you tell a therapist too much?

I definitely think so. While it’s true that it can lead to some uncomfortable or difficult moments, I believe that’s where some of the most powerful work can happen. And if nothing else, it sure makes your therapist’s job a lot more exciting. Just ask mine!

What happened when I stopped trying so hard to try in therapy?

Looking back, though, I can see that some of the most important growth I’ve had in therapy actually happened when I stopped trying so hard to please my therapist. In fact, the most powerful moments we’ve shared together were when I had the courage to tell him things that I was absolutely convinced I shouldn’t say.

Should you let your therapist know you’re grateful for their help?

It’s not the sort of situation where you can just send an edible arrangement and call it a day. What I’ve learned, though, is that there’s absolutely nothing wrong with letting your therapist know how grateful you are for their impact on your life. They like being told they’re doing a good job, too, you know.

Should I tell my therapist when I’m angry or disappointed?

That doesn’t mean it’s easy to do this, however. Especially because it feels weird to be angry at someone who’s entire job is about, well, helping you. But when I finally started telling my therapist when I felt angry or disappointed in him, it deepened our relationship and trust in one another.

Did you ever have a tantrum in therapy?

Yes, this is a direct quote. And the closest thing to a tantrum that I’ve ever had in therapy. It was at a time when even his gentlest suggestions felt like too much pressure. And after one too many statements leading with “have you tried…?” Well, I sort of lost it. I’m still glad that I said it, though.