How do I help my boyfriend deal with my past?

Here’s how.

1. Accept and validate your feelings.
2. Put yourself in their place.
3. Resist the urge to dig.
4. Talk to your partner.
5. Accept what they tell you.
6. Ask yourself what you’re really concerned about.
7. Remind yourself of your own value.
8. Reframe the situation.

Why is my boyfriend bringing up my past?

When they are bringing up your past mistakes, they are often talking to themselves about the areas of their lives they think they need to improve but haven’t made progress. If they are not someone you trust, their motives could be to embarrass or control you.

What would happen if my boyfriend’s past was different?

If any aspect of your boyfriend’s past was different, he would be a completely different human being. Pause and consider that for a moment. And what’s more: if your boyfriend was a different human being, you might not be attracted to him at all. I’m serious.

Should I trust my boyfriend?

Above all: trust your boyfriend until he gives you a reason (or reasons) not to. Trust your boyfriend when he chooses you. Trust his love, his attention, his affection. And remember that all human beings are selfish, to some extent –he’s not spending time with you because he feels sorry for you, or he’s “settling.”

Why can’t I accept that my partner has a past?

People who cannot accept that their partner has a past are most likely trying to be in control and/or to deal with their own insecurities. Either way, that is their problem and not their partner’s. The only way partners can deal with such a situation is to set boundaries around the topic and make it off-limits.

How do I stop thinking about my boyfriend all the time?

Or, more realistically, we can accept that there is a bad occasionally challenging emotion that might come up for us as a result of their attractive qualities. Stop convincing yourself to forget about your boyfriend because he attracts others, too. Above all: trust your boyfriend until he gives you a reason (or reasons) not to.