How do I protect my child from a narcissistic ex?

Here’s what I’ve learned works for people who are co-parenting with a narcissist:

1. Set boundaries about communication.
2. Seek a parent coordinator through the courts.
3. Keep detailed records.
4. Have your child attend counseling.
5. Do not argue with the narcissist.
6. Be aware of narcissist triggers.
7. Practice good self-care.

What happens when you have two narcissistic parents?

The child who grows up with one or both parents who are extreme narcissists is inevitably going to be lacking in love, validation, mirroring and approval. They will have a deep sense of insecurity and be lacking in confidence. This is because the narcissist is incapable of really seeing or loving their child.

How do you deal with a narcissistic spouse in a custody case?

In a custody case, a narcissistic spouse will attempt to portray you as trying to alienate the child when you try to bring their narcissistic tendencies to the attention of the court. It’s best to let the child’s concerns come from the child directly.

How can I get my child back from a narcissist?

Counseling for the child or even therapeutic visits where the child and narcissist parent meet with a therapist together to help repair the relationship. Keep in mind that many narcissists refuse to attend therapy even if it’s the only way the court will allow them to see the child.

Will divorcing a narcissist affect my children?

Divorcing a narcissist comes with many complications. But your biggest concern should be protecting your children from a narcissistic parent. A divorce is likely to escalate emotions and certainly amplify some of your spouse’s narcissistic tendencies. Though this will be a tumultuous time for you, someone has to consider the kids.

Is your child being abused by a narcissist parent?

If you see or learn that your child is being abused by the narcissist parent, you must take action. It’s your job to protect your child and not doing so makes you as guilty as the abuser. Narcissists are great at portraying themselves as ideal parents to the court.