How do I stop fighting with a narcissist?
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How do I stop fighting with a narcissist?
Here are the steps you should take:
- Don’t argue about ‘right’ and ‘wrong’
- Instead, try to empathise with their feelings.
- Use ‘we’ language.
- Don’t expect an apology.
- Ask about a topic that interests them.
- Don’t take the bait yourself.
- Remember to put yourself first.
Why narcissists pick fights?
Usually they do it because they feel angered or insulted by something you have done and want to start a fight. Or, they may be anxious or angry about something else entirely and are taking it out on you. I have discovered that if I ignore their insult and do not rise to the bait, I can often avoid a pointless fight.
What happens when you fight a losing battle with a narcissist?
When a narcissist realizes they are fighting a losing battle with you, they’ll sometimes try to enlist the help of others. Often it’s anyone who’ll listen. They’ll try to reach out to close friends, colleagues, or family and express their worry and upset at how they’re being treated by you.
What happens when you go no contact with a narcissist?
If you’re no longer bringing value to them, then they really don’t have any use for you. But they can be discarding you and still have use for you because they can make you squirm. Thus, if you turn around and you reject that narcissist, and you go no contact, you are basically cutting off their supply.
Why do narcissists take rejection so hard?
They’re the ones that actually have an overlay of an antisocial personality and paranoia. And so they tend even take rejection or no contact so much worse. One thing that you should know is that rejection is the thing that narcissists fear the most. That’s the one thing they do not want to happen to them.
Is it hard to turn your back on a narcissist?
It may be hard, painful in fact, to turn your back on the people in your life that the narcissist has enlisted for help, but trust me, it’s for the best. Eventually, these people close to you will understand why you dismissed them during this difficult time.