How do I talk to my friend about their problems?
How do I talk to my friend about their problems?
Keep your questions open-ended. Say “Can you tell me how you are feeling?” rather than “Are you feeling sad?” Give your friend time to answer. Sometimes, just being able to vent about one’s troubles is enough to feel better. Ask “How can I help or support you?” rather than jumping in with your own solutions.
How do you respond instead of react?
Top 7 Ways to Practice Thoughtful Response and Avoid Hasty Reactions:
- Train and Plan.
- Get Perspective.
- Mindfulness – Considering the 360° View.
- Manage Emotions Balanced with Facts.
- Pause and Breathe.
- Consider the Consequences of your Choices.
How do you respond to someone who is complaining about something?
If they don’t seem interested in being drawn into a conversation about it, then just commiserate. Don’t invalidate their feelings. Often, when someone comes to you to complain about a problem, they are looking for an opportunity to vent. Invite that. Give them a chance and then give them support.
How do you deal with people who feel like a failure?
All of those examples seem like you’re minimizing their feelings. It seems natural that telling them that they’re going to do better eventually would help but, when a person is feeling like a failure, and they tell you about it… if you have the inclination, the better option is to ask them to talk about it more.
How do you stop someone from dumping their problems on You?
But when the person dumping her problems is not very close to you, the only way to stop her is to set a boundary. First, change your inner monologue. Stop saying, “I’m supposed to listen. I’m a caring person.
How do you deal with a friend who thinks they’re smart?
Instead of saying “you’re smart” remind them of a time that you thought they were smart or capable or excellent. This shows that you know them and care about them and helps them remember that they can succeed. Don’t respond. Listen. And listen actively. That is to say, find out why your friend tells you about their “failure”.