How do you deal with discard phases?
How do you deal with discard phases?
Heres some advice on how to recover from a discard:
- Allow yourself to grieve. Go in to your feelings; dont try to avoid them.
- Challenge your negative beliefs.
- Put the responsibility back on the other person.
- Learn the life lessons.
- Move forward with your life.
What is the final discard?
The narcissist final discard occurs when they finally have squeezed every last ounce of joy and self-worth from you. They’ve grown bored of the relationship and you serve no further purpose. Instead, they highlight how they were the victim and how you’ll fail in every subsequent relationship.
What is splitting in persons with borderline personality disorder?
Splitting is a psychological mechanism which allows the person to tolerate difficult and overwhelming emotions by seeing someone as either good or bad, idealised or devalued. This makes it easier to manage the emotions that they are feeling, which on the surface seem to be contradictory.
Do people with BPD get enmeshed with their exes?
So many people, on the other side of BPD – who do not have BPD – do certainly get enmeshed with a partner (on-again-off-again Ex then partner again) and because this is so painful and confusing an incredible amount of focus is put on the person with BPD. This means that loved ones begin in a myriad of ways to lose themselves often.
What to do when your BPD partner is not talking to you?
Throwing around blame and pointing fingers does you no good. Even if your BPD partner has always blamed you for everything, don’t try to turn it around and throw blame back. So during this time of break up when your ex isn’t communicating with you, take this valuable time to relearn who you are.
Do people with borderline personality disorder return to their exes after discard?
My experience has been that they are more likely than someone with NPD to return after a discard due to their intense fears of abandonment and feeling alone. However, it is possible that someone with BPD might discard one person permanently, but cling to a new person instead to avoid the negative feelings that are triggered for them.
Why are people in toxic relationships with people with BPD?
The why people are in these types of relationships, rescuing, enmeshed, enabling, codependent and toxic with people with BPD is because they have some issues (as all people do to one degree or another) that need to be faced, addressed, and resolved in order to unhook from what feels so compelling but really isn’t healthy for you.