How do you explain being poly?

Polyamory is defined as practicing or being open to intimate relationships with more than one person. Dating as a polyamorous person means you’re not looking for just one person to share a romantic or sexual connection with.

How do you discuss polyamory?

Introduce the idea to your partner in a nonthreatening way. Before trying to date anyone, spend some time talking about the concept of polyamory with your partner. One way to start the conversation is by talking about the ways you are already open to other relationships.

When should I tell someone that I’m polyamorous?

In general, you should tell someone you’re polyamorous when you feel comfortable with them knowing that you’re polyamorous. This is similar to “coming out” as gay. It’s personal information about your love life that isn’t directly relevant to most people, and might cause them to judge you negatively.

Does jealousy mean you’re not polyamorous?

A lot of people starting out in or curious about polyamory see this as an indicator that they’re not polyamorous. If not experiencing jealousy was a prerequisite to being polyamorous, there would be significantly fewer polyamorous people than there actually are today.

Does polyamory really work?

There are a lot of reasons why people consider polyamory, a lot of ways that it can possibly work, and also a lot of ways it definitely does not work. (BTW, this may be a multi-part blog, written over several weeks, since there’s so much to be said about this.

Is it hard to tell someone about your non-monogamous relationship?

It’s always hard to tell someone about your non-monogamous relationship. People have very strong opinions on the issue, and you always run the risk of someone you never expected telling you it’s wrong. The process is even harder when you’re trying to tell someone you’re actually attracted to about your relationship dynamic.