How do you know if you have a toxic grandparent?

The toxic grandparent feels like you owe them time with their grandchildren. If they don’t get that time for whatever reason, they’ll accuse you of using your kid to hurt them. They will go as far as demanding time with your kid ONLY, trying to bypass you and take control of the situation.

Do you brush it off when grandparents mistreat you?

If you ever dated a jerk, you know that people are quick to tell you to “dump his sorry ass.” But if a family member is mistreating you, they say: “Just brush it off.” It’s even worse when grandparents are involved. As a culture, we place importance on having an extended family, and grandparents are a big part of that.

Why does my grandparent say I don’t remember that?

Whenever you bring up painful moments from your childhood, the grandparent gaslightsyou by saying: “I don’t remember that,” or “You always exaggerate!” Quite simply, the grandparent is incapable of reflecting on their flaws and wrongdoings.

Is it normal for grandparents to spoil grandchildren?

It’s normal for grandparents to want to spoil their grandkids. Many grandparents find joy in buying gifts for the grandchild, cooking them delicious meals, treating them to an extra cookie, letting them stay up past bedtime…That’s why children tend to adore their grandparents.

Why did you agree to move in with your grandmother?

My husband and I were having problems and we are separated (but we are working things out). I agreed to move in with my grandmother because she needed someone to look after her, she isn’t doing well she has COPD, Emphysema, and other lung issues.

Why do grandparents try to manipulate their grandchildren?

Children are a perfect target for a manipulator because they’re so innocent and trusting. As a result, they may internalize guilt or shame the grandparent is trying to use to manipulate them. So be vigilant when the grandparent is trying to play on your child’s emotions. It’s not as harmless as it sounds.