How do you overcome fear of obligation and guilt?

Work on setting Boundaries that will help you escape the feelings of helplessness, hopelessness and powerlessness. Try to add logical rational thought to every emotional thought of Fear, Obligation & Guilt. Try to substitute “what really works” for “what feels right” when you are making decisions.

What should I do if my partner is using emotional blackmail?

If you are a victim of emotional blackmail and you believe your partner is using guilt to control or manipulate you, you need to seek help right away. Depending on the situation, individual or couples counseling could be needed. Online counseling is an option for people in need of flexibility.

How do people use guilt and emotional blackmail to manipulate people?

People who use guilt and emotional blackmail to manipulate and control often work in cycles. There is a period of time in which things seem to be going well and often the victim might let their guard down because the manipulation and intimidation went away. Perhaps the victim will then feel “I must be doing things correctly now.”

How do you know if you have been blackmailed by someone?

If you think this has happened to you, one thing you will notice is that the person doing the emotional blackmail will never share their secrets, or they will share things unimportant, whereas you have probably shared your darkest depths. The secrets that are shared are the perfect leverage for emotional extortion.

How do Emotional blackmailers know which triggers will work?

The blackmailer knows very well that their victim feels like this, and quickly learns which parts of the FOG triad are most effective in manipulating them. They get to learn which emotional triggers will work. Emotional blackmailers, like any abusers, are often very good at spotting the people who are likely to respond to them the best.