How do you stop thinking about people who have hurt you?
How do you stop thinking about people who have hurt you?
5 Ways to Let Go of Past Hurts
- Make the decision to let it go. Things don’t disappear on their own.
- Express your pain — and your responsibility.
- Stop being the victim and blaming others.
- Focus on the present — the here and now — and joy.
- Forgive them — and yourself.
Why stay with people who hurt us?
Another reason people stay in hurtful relationships is our belief in what we call “unconditional love.” People often ask what unconditional love means, unsure whether we still have to love someone if they hurt us because we can’t attach conditions to love—such as refusing to tolerate abuse.
What to do with people that hurt you?
They will help you develop some new techniques and keep you from reacting to new hurts in old ways.
- Recognize the offense for what it is.
- Resist the tendency to defend your position.
- Give up the need to be right.
- Recognize and apologize for anything you may have done to contribute to the situation.
- Respond, don’t react.
How do you love someone who hurt you?
Below are some steps for how to forgive and trust again once you’ve been hurt.
- Forgive yourself. An important part of the forgiveness process is forgiving yourself.
- Forgive the other person.
- Trust yourself.
- Trust the other person.
Do hurt people hurt people more than they hurt themselves?
We get to be careful as we teach people how to treat us — no matter how much a person is hurting, we deserve to be loved in a way that feels good. Hurt people hurt people, however they hurt themselves more. We don’t need to feel hurt in the process as they take themselves down.
Why do people inflict pain on You?
Inflicting pain on you may be a distraction from their own pain, a way of “getting even” for things which have happened to them and a way to feel something deeply in a way which makes sense to them, given their past experiences. Tied into gaining control and weakening you, inflicting hurt can feel like a heady experience.
Why do we feel hurt when we talk to others?
Our brain constantly makes assumptions that turn any situation into an attack. We walk around feeling hurt when learning to actually listen to others and asking a few good questions could show us that nobody has actually hurt us at all.
What do you do when someone hurts you and you Don’t Tell?
It happens we think a lot about someone, not only because they hurt us, but because we’re angry about it and we never told them. If you want to tell them, do so. Speak from the heart, make them see the pain (an angry outburst will only lead to them attacking you in return, or defending themselves). If you don’t want to talk about it, let it go.