Is it normal for my boyfriend to text me constantly?

It sounds like the texting is not only excessive but most importantly, takes time from your relationship. You are valid in your feelings and because your boyfriend has experienced the pain of infidelity in his past marriage, one would hope he might understand and take steps to create more safety in your dynamic.

Does your partner refer to his colleague’s texts in his free time?

By your account his behaviour remains faultless. It would be perhaps less palatable if your partner spent his free time referring to his colleague’s texts. Then again, why on earth should he, as I’m sure it’s not the only relationship he has that’s based on his job and kept in that arena.

How do I get my boyfriend to stop texting his best friend?

Ask him if he could set boundaries around their texting time and for this, he will likely need to have a discussion with her. If it’s all on the up and up and they are truly just good friends, one would hope that there would be some respect for your request.

Should I be embarrassed by my boyfriend and his female friends?

If your friends and family are starting to catch on to the fact that there’s something seriously up with your boyfriend and his female friends, well, that definitely tells you everything that you need to know, right? You should never be embarrassed by your boyfriend or by anything that’s going on in your relationship.

Is it odd that my boyfriend has female friends at work?

I don’t think it odd that the frequent communication between your boyfriend and his female co-worker is bothersome. It sounds like it’s not that he has female friends per se but you expect respect and boundaries when it comes to your relationship. This is not unreasonable. There’s a great book by John Gottman called, “What Makes Love Last?

Is it possible to develop a semi-intimacy with a female colleague?

In these circumstances there can develop a semi-intimacy which is not quite right, but also leaves no indictable trail, either. Your husband is in constant contact with a female colleague and they’re not discussing sales reports.