Is it possible to change yourself as a person?

Trying to change yourself—that is, who you are—will inevitably lead you to fail and feel hopeless. But if you instead focus on changing your actions without worrying about how it changes you as a person, real change becomes much simpler. Y ou can’t change yourself, so don’t even try.

What happens when you’re with the right person?

Few things are worse than being with someone who just doesn’t get you or even try to understand what you’re feeling and thinking. When you’re with the right person, you feel acknowledged and truly listened to.

Why is it important to take responsibility for your actions?

A key element in growing as an individual and becoming a better person is learning to accept personal responsibility for your actions, including your behaviors, emotions and failures — everything you have control over. We often put the blame on others, sometimes so subtly we hardly realize we’re doing it.

Do you feel responsible for someone else’s feelings?

You are not responsible for anybody else’s feelings. If you have done something unknowingly to hurt somebody, ask, talk about it and if need be, apologise. At any rate, you shouldn’t have to guess. They’ll manipulate. If you feel as though you’re the only one contributing to the relationship, you’re probably right.

Are you pushing yourself to be someone you’re not set up to be?

Pushing yourself to be someone you’re not set up to be is not easy. Sometimes in life, we find ourselves in situations that require us to adapt, to be someone we aren’t.

Can you turn yourself into someone you’re not meant to be?

At times of crises, we find sufficient reason and motivation to turn ourselves into the people necessary to get the job done. But this sort of transformation is usually unsustainable. Being someone you aren’t meant to be may be possible, but opportunities for failure are endless. If you do succeed, you certainly won’t be happy.

Do you try to be someone you’re not?

Rather, you have no other wise choice than to be yourself. You can try to be someone you’re not – plenty of people try – but they all ultimately fail. We all have a multitude of character and personality traits.