Should I reach out to someone with BPD?

Be Responsive. When a person with BPD is trying to reach out or contact you, it’s helpful to be as responsive as possible. If a friend or loved one doesn’t respond, a person with BPD can feel rejected and internalize that as something being “wrong” with them.

Where does BPD fear abandonment come from?

Aetiology of fear of abandonment in BPD Fear of abandonment in BPD is sometimes attributed to early life experiences of parental emotional neglect and conditional love.

Do people with borderline personality disorder return to their exes after discard?

My experience has been that they are more likely than someone with NPD to return after a discard due to their intense fears of abandonment and feeling alone. However, it is possible that someone with BPD might discard one person permanently, but cling to a new person instead to avoid the negative feelings that are triggered for them.

How do you deal with being discarded by people with BPD?

Psychiatrists or therapists often teach people to make pros and cons lists. This is helpful for people who are overly negative/positive. Doing this can help put things into perspective. As for the person who was “discarded” make up your mind about whether or not you really want this person in your life. Take the time to understand BPD.

Why do people with BPD come back after a breakup?

However, unlike other personality disorders like NPD, someone with BPD quickly fears abandonment (even if they were the one to end the relationship), and is more likely to come back and cling to someone as they are deeply afraid of abandonment and it triggers many of their painful experiences from childhood.

Do people with BPD ever wonder what they did wrong in relationships?

However, most people with BPD will go over everything that happened in that relationship (once they are done devaluating you) and wonder where they went wrong. After all they didn’t set out to hurt anyone and cannot help behaving as the person they are.