Should you know details of affair?

You might think that if he shares the sexual details of the affair, you’ll be able to tell if he’s still lying, says Brateman. Is It Healthy? Yes. It’s also beneficial to focus on what your partner felt during the affair, whether they had unprotected sex, and how the affair ended (to understand what prolonged it).

Why full disclosure is important after an affair?

The full disclosure is an important step that allows the couple to put secrets to rest, share the same information, and work through the pain to move forward.

Should you tell your spouse if you’ve had an affair?

Before making the call, it’s important to consider if the affair was a one-time encounter or an ongoing, deeply involved relationship, said Megan Fleming, a psychologist and sex therapist in New York City. “If the affairs are in the past and the other person is committed to their marriage, I would counsel not to disclose,” she said.

What did the woman say in her email to the husband?

“The woman had said in an email: ‘I thought you’d want to know, as I would want to know.’” The revelation upended the couple’s marriage ― then, it made it stronger. “It was a crisis in their marriage but I always say the crisis is the opportunity,” Fleming said.

Should you tell your spouse when you’ve been adultery?

Clearly, there is no simple answer. However, after years of studying this issue and having spent thousands of hours counseling couples that have dealt with infidelity, I want to offer some perspective. I believe that when adultery has taken place, you should always tell your spouse.

Should you tell an unfaithful spouse to come clean?

Schorn, who started her blog Chump Lady after eventually leaving her unfaithful husband, said she almost always advises the affair partners to come clean. “Unless you truly didn’t know they were married, you were party to conspiring against this person,” she said. “That’s sexually humiliating.