What does it mean when a borderline splits?

What is splitting in borderline personality disorder? For people with borderline personality disorder (BPD), ‘splitting’ is a commonly used defense mechanism that is done subconsciously in an attempt to protect against intense negative feelings such as loneliness, abandonment and isolation.

What dating someone with BPD is like?

A romantic relationship with someone with BPD can be, in a word, stormy. It’s not uncommon to experience a great deal of turmoil and dysfunction. However, people with BPD can be exceptionally caring, compassionate, and affectionate. In fact, some people find this level of devotion from a partner pleasant.

How does a person with borderline personality disorder use splitting?

A person with borderline personality disorder may use splitting in the following ways: People will be seen as ‘perfect’ or ‘evil’ Something will ‘always’ or ‘never’ go right Someone will ‘always’ or ‘never’ be loving

How can I help my loved one with BPD split episodes?

Often, the same events over and over again are a BPD trigger. Knowing your loved one’s triggers, alerting them, and helping them avoid or cope with those triggers may prevent a splitting cycle. Understand your own limits. If you feel unequipped to help your loved one cope with their BPD splitting episodes, be honest.

How to tell if you have borderline personality disorder?

11 Things People With Borderline Personality Disorder Do That Mean ‘I’m Splitting’ 1 Saying Hurtful Things. 2 Being Emotionally Detached From Others. 3 Overanalyzing. 4 “Ghosting” People. 5 Getting Irritable. 6 Exploding at Little Things. 7 Blocking People on Social Media. 8 Canceling Plans. 9 Isolating. 10 Jumping to Conclusions.

What to do when you have a splitting episode?

If you need help dealing with a splitting episode in the moment, here’s what you can do: Calm your breathing. A surge of anxiety often accompanies splitting episodes. Taking long, deep breaths can help calm you and prevent your extreme feelings from taking over.