Why do assumptions ruin relationships?

Why do assumptions ruin relationships? Assumptions lead to ‘shut down’. We stop being open and receptive to the other person, stop trying to connect, stop making effort, or even walk away from a relationship or quit a job, all based on our own assumptions. Assumptions create constant tension and conflict .

Why you should never make assumptions?

Assumptions allow you to hide behind your version of the story. This means you don’t own your part in the true story. You prefer to blame others for your misfortune, rather than look in the mirror. They keep you stuck in the past.

Are making assumptions bad?

“Because we are afraid to ask for clarification, we make assumptions; then we defend our assumptions and try to make someone else wrong. It is always better to ask questions than to make an assumption, because assumptions set us up for suffering.” That makes you feel a bit stupid and you hate feeling stupid.

Are belief and assumption the same thing?

An “Assumption” is where you believe something to be true, but it is yet unproven while a “belief” is something you are certain is true. However, our beliefs may, in fact, be assumptions that are in the end false.

What is the problem with making assumptions?

The problem with making assumptions is that we believe they are the truth. We could swear they are real. We make assumptions about what others are doing or thinking — we take it personally — then we blame them and react by sending emotional poison with our word. That is why whenever we make assumptions, we’re asking for problems.

Why do people assume things about me?

People assume things because it makes it easier to navigate the world. Some people are better at acknowledging and changing their biases than others. In the long run, your actions will speak much louder than any intentions. Do well in school and it won’t matter what you were dong in the middle of the night.

Why do we make assumptions so fast and unconsciously?

“These assumptions are made so fast and unconsciously most of the time because we have agreements to communicate this way. We have agreed that is is not safe to ask questions; we have agreed that if people love us, they should know what we want or how we feel.

Do you make assumptions in your relationship?

“Making assumptions in our relationships is really asking for problems. Often we make the assumption that our partners know what we think and that we don’t have to say what we want. We assume they are going to do what we want, because they know us so well.