Why do mothers and daughters tangle over their hair?

They are thinking of how others will interpret their daughters’ character. That concern was explicit in one mother’s warning that no one would take her daughter seriously if she didn’t style her hair more carefully: “If they see someone with loose ends in their hair, they’ll think you have loose ends in your life.”

How do you get your parents to allow you to cut your hair?

Write out arguments or reason why you want short hair. Think about any objections your mom could raise against each one, and think about how you can respond. If it works for you, try to get a relative to help back you up. Now, it may be your mom won’t even want to talk about this and will just say no.

Should I cut my baby’s hair?

Wait to cut your baby’s hair until they’re at least able to hold their head up on their own, so about 6 months, at least. Additionally, there are common-sense signs that your child is ready for their first haircut, such as hair getting into their eyes or overall difficulty keeping it clean and styled.

How do I deal with a mother who constantly criticizes me?

If you can mention the things you value about me, that will give me the best chance of finding a partner who values me, too.” If she continues making critical comments, simply take some deep breaths to calm yourself, then walk over and give her a big hug and say, “I’m sorry you’re so worried, Mom.

How do I talk to my mom about my appearance?

The point is to not engage in any discussion about your appearance—not a word—but instead to empathize with the maternal anxiety that’s fueling her not-so-useful “assistance.”

What to do when someone criticizes your work?

Thank your critic. Just because someone criticizes your work doesn’t mean they’re not your fan. Often times the criticism we receive is intended to be genuine feedback and help us. If nothing else, it’s a person who cares enough to share their opinion with us. That’s valuable and not something to just write off.

Is it in my power to change my mother’s behavior?

Your mother’s emotional struggles—and her behavior is a manifestation of them—aren’t in your power to change. They’re in her power to change, but the problem with difficult family members is that often they lack the willingness to self-reflect.