Why do narcissists come back for more?

When we look at the hoover in such a scenario when we come back for more, we do so for one of the following three reasons: – 1. To draw you back into the relationship again so that the whole narcissistic cycle can begin once more; 2. To hurt you.

What is hoovering in a narcissist always returns?

A Narcissist Always Returns (The Hoovering) By timing these reappearances perfectly, the narcissist conditions his victim to not only expect him to come back but also to expect him to come back at a much later date, thus giving him more play time in the interim. All of this is part of the narcissist’s control/validate tactic which, in turn,…

What is no contact with a narcissist?

No Contact is the key to escaping The Hoovering and the narcissist’s life-long plan for you. It’s also the only opportunity you’ll ever have for breaking the codependency to hope that the narcissist counts on you to cling to while he’s gone.

Why would a narcissist want to keep you in the queue?

No matter what he tells you, this is the only reason. A narcissist’s intention, after all, is to always keep you in the queue, ready and waiting alongside all the others (and there are always others). Hoovers are stuffed with lies and future-fakery and downright bullshit.

What happens when a narcissist moves in with your ex?

Most often they do, moving straight in with you as nobody falls in love faster than a narcissist that needs somewhere to live or use to look like they are normal and twist the knife in on the ex. The idealisation stage often continues, when they first move in, you’ve met your soul mate, and life couldn’t be better.

Can a narcissist become a better person after a separation?

They have no interest in the feelings of ex-partners, they are so selfish that they deal with other people as with dolls, sad but true. In some cases narcissists can also become better people, but this is rarely the case. Only the few of them see their mistakes after the separation and try to make the best of themselves.

What do narcissists ask when they Hoover you?

Whenever narcissists hoover you, you ask with your well-known decency how we are faring, you ask about our progress workwise, our health, and about all other matters.