Why should we stop pleasing others?

Sacrificing our self for the sake of pleasing others leads us down a perilous road and creates roadblocks to authentic caring, communication, and closeness. I’ve been down that road of putting others’ needs before my own, and for a time, was an unhappy, bitter woman.

Can you stop people pleasing?

You can stop being a people-pleaser, but not by changing who you are. Instead, be true to yourself, and people will respect you for it. Yes, this is a hard one. Sometimes people-pleasing can become such a deeply ingrained habit that you have to tell yourself that it is okay to say “no”.

What happens when you please everyone?

Just like Kyle, when you focus on trying to please everyone, you lose sight of your own values, goals, and personality. It means you never stand up for what you believe in or go after your own dreams. You can read more in this article about how to maintain your sense of self.

Why do I try so hard to please others?

A people pleaser is someone who tries hard to make others happy. They will often go out of their way to please someone, even if it means taking their own valuable time or resources away from them. People pleasers often act out of insecurity and a lack of self-esteem.

What happens when you are a people pleaser?

When you’re a people-pleaser no one really knows the “true” and authentic you — they only know the facade that you present them with. Unfortunately, this desire to be loved and approved often backfires, making you feel more lonely and disconnected as time goes on.

Why do people want to please other people?

In fact, people-pleasing is more about the desire to be in control than it is to please other people. Wanting to be liked by others is just a symptom of the desire to be in control because deep down you feel powerless or worthless.

What is the difference between “doing good” and “people pleasing”?

There’s a big difference between “doing good” and people pleasing. There’s nothing wrong with doing good deeds for others. It’s part of being human, and it’s part of what we do for the people we care about and those who need us. Giving our time, energy, and sometimes money is how we contribute to society — how we often give back to our community.

Is people-pleasing Ruining Your Life?

If you’re like me, people-pleasing has run havoc in your life. It has crushed your spirit repeatedly. It has robbed you of peace of mind, personal empowerment and the courage to follow your goals and dreams. It has hit you while you’re down and dragged you through the dirt.