How do you motivate an unmotivated 19 year old?

Motivating the Unmotivated Child

1. Lack of Motivation is a Form of Resistance.
2. All Kids are Motivated by Something.
3. Kids Resist Because They Lack Problem-Solving Skills.
4. Don’t Argue or Fight With Your Child About Motivation.
5. Be Clear, Calm, and Give Consequences for Your Child’s Behavior.
6. Give Effective Consequences.

What should I do if my adult son or daughter won’t get a job?

If your adult son or daughter won’t get a job, it’s time to make some changes. Despite your intentions, part of the problem might be you. Evaluate your role and why you might be enabling your child, create boundaries and formulate a plan. Look at the situation to determine if you’re encouraging your child to remain jobless.

What happens to a young adult without a job or education?

Remember that a young adult without a job or educational goals has little sense of accomplishment or contribution and thus is a young adult whose confidence will plummet the longer time passes without progress in either area. Sending love and prayers.

How do you deal with a child who won’t work?

Spend some time thinking about your expectations, and what the consequences will be for not following those expectations. Choose consequences you will adhere to — it will not be effective if you tell your child he can’t live in your home without a job and he is still there, jobless, 3 months later.

Why should I Hold my teenage son accountable?

Holding him accountable lets him learn the skills he needs to become an independent adult. As James mentions in his 3 part series Rules, Boundaries, and Older Children, many teens lack the practical skills to assume adult responsibilities. Their anxieties about becoming independent may keep them from making an effort to find, or keep, a job.