What does it mean when your partner makes decisions without consulting me?

It is possible that your husband makes decisions without consulting you because he does not see you as his equal. If he does not see you as his equal, even if he did consult you on decisions, it would not be of much value to him because he values his own opinion above yours.

Who should make the decisions in a relationship?

Decisions: Single vs. In order to maintain a healthy relationship, each partner must at least consider their spouse when making decisions. Whether you are actively making decisions together or considering one another in your individual decisions, there are relatively few that you should make completely on your own.

How to deal with a partner who makes decisions without your consent?

Notice how you feel when expected to welcome the result of decisions made without your knowledge or consent. Then, pay attention to what happens within the relationship when you confront the decision-making of your partner. Lastly, take notice of how he/she deals with your experience of un-welcomed consequences of these decisions.

How do you recognize unilateral decision-making in a relationship?

If you are new to an abusive relationship or recently awakening to being in one, look closely at this pattern of unilateral decision-making. Notice how you feel when expected to welcome the result of decisions made without your knowledge or consent.

How do you feel when your partner makes decisions that impact you?

When your partner makes decisions that impact you without your knowledge or consent, he/she is basically acting on your behalf irrespective of your wishes. How do you feel about that? If you don’t care that someone else is controlling some of your life choices and if the decisions made do not harm you, then it’s probably not a big deal.

How do you know if your husband doesn’t respect you?

Control is a sign that he doesn’t respect you, whereas allowing you to make your own choices is a sign that he does. If someone in a marriage or relationship tries to isolate you, it’s a big sign that your partner or husband doesn’t love you or that he doesn’t respect you. Why are people disrespectful?